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Saturday, December 2, 2017

Attitude Of Lucky People - I Would Rather Regret Things That I Have Done Than The Things That I Have Not Done

Satya Narayan Nadella was named CEO of Microsoft in 2014. In a letter to all Microsoft employees, he said, 'Many who know me say that I am deifned by my curiosity and thirst for learning. I buy more books than I can finish. I sign up for more online courses than I can complete. I fundamentally believe that if you are not learning new things, you stop doing great and useful things.' This is how successful people make their luck. This is the fundamental attitude of lucky people. Their focus to learn new things increases the number of opportunities that come in their journey of life.

Taking inspiration from the above, I am sharing some of the things that I tried in last few years. These are examples of small things where I have tried to develop the attitude to 'do more'.

1. I had a good job, but still few years ago I asked myself what more can I do? Looked at the options and started with trainings. Within few years I got good hold over Oracle trainings and earned a good name as a corporate trainer within the company.
2. After few years, I asked myself the same question, what more can I do? Looked at the options and started my own blog The Tomorrow Beckons, published one article after another and today I have 148 article published on my blog with over 275982 pageviews. My movie review blog YourWeekendMovie also got a comment from the Kahaani 2 director Sujoy Ghosh.

3. The clock ticked, I moved on and yes in few years I asked the same question again, what more can I do? This time the opportunity came in the form of Toastmasters Club. I joined the club as a member and within a year got elected as President of the club.
4. While all of this was happening I started to contribure on Quora and till date I have some 808 Answers, 38 questions, 29 questions resulting in…

Now, I know that by no stretch of imagination these things can be considered on a yardstick for success but the point I am trying to make is how the attitude to do more has taken me into territories I never imagined I could venture into. I strongly believe if you think you are successful and have achieved a lot and that you don’t want to do anything more then it may just be the beginning of your downfall.
Lot of talented people don’t succeed either because they are laid back or because they are a victim of self doubt and fear. Developing an attitude to do more or newer things may help you achieve a lot more than you could have ever imagined. 
I will leave you with these two quotes…
Hope this helps you get out of your comfort zone.

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Never Wrestle With Pigs, You Both Get Dirty And The Pig Likes It

I came across this intersting story on whatsapp...

An elephant took a bath in a river and was walking on the road. When it neared a bridge, it saw a pig fully soaked in mud coming from the opposite direction. The elephant quietly moved to one side, allowed the dirty pig to pass and then continued its onward journey.
The unclean pig later spoke to its friends in arrogance, “See how big I am; even the elephant was afraid of me and moved to one side to let me pass”.
On hearing this, some elephants questioned their friend, the reason for its action. Was it out of fear?
The elephant smiled and replied, “I could have easily crushed the pig under my leg, but I was clean and the pig was very dirty. By crushing it, my leg will become dirty and I wanted to avoid it. Hence, I moved aside.”
*This story reveals*
Realized souls will avoid contact with negativity not out of fear, but out of desire to keep away from impurity though they are strong enough to destroy the impurity.
You need not react to every opinion, every comment, or every situation.Choose your battles wisely... Not everything deserves your time and attention
Now compare this with the day to day situation you face at your workplace. Think about those people who...
  • Taunt you for working hard
  • Make fun of you or criticize you in public
  • Think you get lucky everytime
  • Write nasty emails to you for no reason at all
  • Are plain jealous just because you are successful
  • Only care for visibility and nothing else
  • Talk behing your back but not in your face
  • Hold grudges and seek revenge

These are the people who divert your attention from your work. If you react or respond to them you lose focus of your work. Hence when you meet such people, do exactly what the elephant did to the Pig. Don't wrestle with them. Choose your battles wisely. Not everything deserves your time and attention. Ignore and move on.

Hope you were able to make a connect. Before we sign off here is another inspirational video, you will definitely want to watch it if you are more than 16 years old...

Monday, August 21, 2017

Saying No Is Like Farting In The Grocery Aisle

Someone asked me How do I become bold, so that others will not take advantage of me anymore?

Short answer to this question is 'Learn the habit of saying No'.

You will not only need to become bold but also become smart and sensitive of human behavior to avoid others taking advantage of yourself. Saying No is first step in the right direction.
For example, if someone asks you “What is your salary?” and you feel uncomfortable to answer this question by saying a direct 'No, I don't want to tell you my salary' then take a deep breath, put a smile on your face and instead of an answer respond with a question “Why do you want to know?” This way you will pass a message that you are not interested in answering this question.
I think there are respectful ways to say no. I read this interesting incident on social media...

"I work in retail while I'm studying, the other day I was working with my assistant state manager we were doing some tidying up and she asked me to hang a string of balloons up quite high.
I just told her I would respectfully do anything else asked of me but they were too high and I wasn't comfortable doing it. She got somebody else to do it. We worked a couple more days together and my my manager received a glowing report once he was back."

Clarity of communication can go a long way. Speaking louder, more concisely and explaining your point of view can really do wonders for getting aggressive people to back off. Your success is dependent in the understanding and mastering of following skills pertaining to human relations:

  • Understanding The Human Ego
  • Making People Feel Important
  • Creating a Good Impression
  • Criticizing Without Offending
Not everyone is born with these skills, but the good news is that these skills can be developed over time by continous practice in day to day life interactions.
To conclude I would highly recommend you read these couple of bestsellers to develop these skills…The Art of Dealing with People and Questions Are the Answers
Remember Assertiveness is not anger. Decisiveness is not anger. Saying no is like farting in the grocery aisle. Do it quickly, respectfully and sparingly and you wont offend anybody.